Sunday, February 13, 2011

When the going gets tough...

Kick going's *ss!

Life is not always easy.
Why is my mom addicted to drugs and alcohol? Why did my parents divorce? Why does my son have to live life without ever meeting his grandma? Why does my grandma constantly put me down, day by day by day? Why are people in the world going hungry? Why do people have to suffer from AIDS & cancer? Why do women have to go months trying to become pregnant, & never get the chance to hold a precious bundle of joy of their own? Why do men cheat on their wives & beat them black & blue? Why do people have to live under bridges and in abandoned buildings? Why are children being kidnapped and forced to have sex with strangers for money?

Why do bad things happen to good people?

I don't know why.

Maybe the world would be a better place if good things happened to good people, and bad things happened to bad people. An eye for an eye. Maybe? Maybe then everyone would try to be good & the world would be such a hormonious & happy place. Wouldn't that be great?

All I know is, life is never easy. I recently shared words of encouragement with a fellow bloggette that were bestowed upon me that always helps when hard times hit. Now, right now... I don't feel like I'm struggling with hard times. It's not easy being away from my soldier & taking the sole responsibility for my son day in & day out, living with a cruel & unhappy family member until the big move overseas, looking in the mirror & hating the person that stares back at me, being hours away from family & friends... no, it's not easy. I just know that it could be worse, and it has been worse. So I'm thankful for the strength & grace God has blessed me with to get through these little pot holes. I'll take pot holes over bayous any day!

However, I do know people close to me and people who I follow here on Blogger that are going through some really, really hard times. My heart aches for these people, even those who I barely know anything about or have never met... I just have a big heart. I just care. & I pray. I hope it's helping, because that's all the help it seems I can offer.

Now the words of wisdom that were once shared with me, that I feel every person could benefit from...
What we don't realize during trials & tribulations is that everything we're going through will one day just be a memory.

That's all. Just a memory. We will look back at these days that seem never ending, even if we wish they would just end & stop right there... & we will have grown from those days, we will have become better people, we will be stronger, we will be happier, we will appreciate & be thankful. If you just hang on to your faith and keep a positive mindset {fake it 'til you make it!} - you can get through hell & back!

I don't know about you, but I would much rather have good memories than bad ones. Even if times are hard, you have to use that positive mindset to bold the better aspects of your days so that when you look back, that's all you will see. Any good student knows that only the bold words will be on the test, duh. =) haha jk ... but seriously, don't take study tips from me =) ...& just think about it. Think ahead for a minute & consider how you want to remember these days.

In good cheerleader form, I will shake my poms & I say to you : I'll be cheering for ya! =)

w/ LOVE♥

2 comments:

Ashley@LearningLifeAsLucy said...

Thanks so much for those words of encouragement! You have no idea how much they meant... Sometimes I just feel so alone with this baby thing and it's nice to know that people still believe good can come and that I'm not alone! You've turned my bad day upside down, along with Jess of course <3

NayM said...

Def needed this. Thanks Bec! i love ya!!!